These days, more than ever, I am a big big believer in timing. I have had the idea and photos for this post for over 8 weeks and I have done nothing about it. I have several drafts and half hearted attempts at meaningful content for this post, but I haven’t been able to write until today. I was scrolling to Instagram and noticed Gwyneth Paltrow’s no make up photo and I was like what? This is now a trend? Earlier this month Alicia Keys went to VMAs sans make up. It made big news and she received both support and backlash. Point is, that photo moved me to finish this post, so thank you GP!
I was struggling with the post, because I actually love wearing make up. I also have been the biggest advocate of make up, I despise people who say you don’t need make up to look pretty. Yeah, you don’t need it, but I like wearing make up and you like looking at my face with it, so deal with it. It enhances my features or evens out my skin tone and makes me feel like a million bucks! Make up is personal, just like religion is supposed to be. But opinions are like butt holes, everyone has one!
Having said that, it has been over 12 weeks since I stopped wearing or reduced the products that went on my face.
I don’t actually remember if it was these sudden break outs on my face, or the overdose of contouring videos on the internet, or the time it took to get ready and out of the house, or the melting, mucky heat of summers in Philly that led to me giving up on make up. But I did. It has got to have been a combination of all of the above.
Now i don’t have flawless skin, but waking up one day with a bunch of tiny dots on both my cheeks and jaw bones freaked me out. For over a week i fretted with a color corrector, concealer, foundation and mineral powder to cover up these ‘imperfections’.
Around the same time, a friend from India was visiting and staying with me. She is not only a beautiful soul, but also gorgeous on the outside. She is blessed with even toned, normal skin and beautiful curly hair. She wears kohl around her eyes and is done! I laughed so hard when she said I was beautiful and shouldn’t waste time trying to fix my face.
Apologies, I tend to digress. So here I am looking like a kid hitting puberty, wondering why I have a vanity with over a 150 products. I have over 30 lipsticks, lip stains and balms, more than 20 eye pencils, 5 mascaras, 3 blushes/bronzers, a couple of skin correctors, a couple of concealers, 2 types of foundations and a primer! Not to mention make up removers, brushes and sponges.
I didn’t think I could step out of the house and still be considered beautiful without make up. Being a blogger, influencer and person in front of the camera requires you to be thick skinned. People are judging your photo, face, body language on their screens. Make up helps add to your visual appeal. It took me almost 2 weeks to get out of the house, because I thought I was unattractive and not photogenic without make up.
Learning to accept my broad nose, tiny lashes, thin brows and lack of high cheek bones was such a big emotional victory. I have stopped wearing base make up completely, so cc creams, concealers or contouring. It takes me 10 minutes to leave the house. I do wear mascara and do fill in my brows but not always, just for you know special occasions like when we were kids! It’s freeing.
I am not saying I won’t ever wear make up, it’s just that I don’t need it anymore to feel like I have an attractive face. After all beauty does lie in the eyes of the beholder and when i look at the mirror now, I see a gorgeous, genuine smile, sparkly eyes and a kind heart with or with out make up!
Here are some photos I took with just some mascara & brow pencil on a hot hot hot summer day with Reetu Bok.
Romper – Free People
Bag – Kenneth Cole